Friday, August 3, 2007

But I’ve got a brilliant personality…!

Yesterday, we took an online Myers-Briggs Type Indicator personality test, and I'm surprised at how eerily accurate it was.

I tested out as an ESFP. This type is also called the Performer. I've been reading a great deal about what this means, and have discovered that I'm pretty much right in the mold of the typical ESFP. That means I'm an "all the world's a stage, so let me entertain you" kind of gal. I appreciate small beauties and get excited over seemingly insignificant events. I'm also a sort of Pollyanna, if you will, because I see the glass as half full, and tend to whistle while walking past the graveyard. I also talk alot and go off on tangents, eventually coming back around to the topic at hand. A conversation with me is indeed much like a spider-web, and and sometimes I confuse people because I start telling a story in the middle, assuming others are following my winding trail of thought. With regards to difficult situations, I'm of the opinion that you have to work with what you've got, and that no amount of complaining is going to change anything.

One ESFP description in particular was chock full of spot-on aspects of who I am. For example:

  • ESFPs want to know their teachers well and know that they care

  • They find themselves drifting off easily while studying theoretical matters

  • Being a resource o others is an important part of their work, and tend to choose occupations that allow them to be responsive to others

  • They like to read and discuss their reading with others

  • They are warm and generous in the face of approval, but can be hampered by disapproval

  • Inclined to be impulsive

The husband's test shows him to be an INTJ. Again, this is exactly who he is. What we both found fascinating was this:
When young, the INTJ is attracted to the free-wheeling, spontaneous, fun-loving ESFP. This type of mating, however, is so infrequent as to be a mere academic interest (the INTJ is a mere 1 percent of the population and, futhermore, rarely come in contact with ESFP.

So if we hadn't met when we were young, we would probably never have found each other, as he would have gone for more practical fare.

Personally, I like knowing my type indicator - it's validating to know that my persistent optimism is a personality trait and not a sign of my eventual decent into insanity. Knowing my husband's type is useful, too, because it allows us to better communicate with each other - if I remember that he needs concreteness, and he remembers that I need affirmation, we'll be better off overall.

I also like reading about the personality types of my friends and co-workers, as they, too, allow me to better tailor my communication and relationship to their particular style. If I know that one co-worker is an ENFJ, then I also know that, while I may feel manipulated by him, he isn't manipulating me on purpose - he "believes in his dreams and sees himself as a helper and enabler."

See how useful this can be?

1 comment:

  1. No, that co-worker really is just trying to manipulate you ... don't trust him.